NLP - Ron Hudson

What Stops People From Achieving What They Want

2009_year

Happy New Year!!!

2008 is behind us now and a new year has begun! By now, you’re off to a great start on achieving the goals you’ve set for 2009. However, you have probably run into some opposition. Typically, opposition shows itself in two ways – but I’m only going to write about one in this post. Ready?

The Most Powerful Force Opposing Your Goal Achievement

The most powerful opposing force to achieving your goals in 2009 and beyond is YOU! More specifically, it’s the disempowering beliefs that you are harboring about yourself, your capabilities, and resources. For example, let’s suppose that in the past five, ten, or twenty years an associate of yours has repeatedly set a goal to earn six figures but it has never happened. Why didn’t it happen? It’s not that they didn’t want to achieve the goal. It’s that they allowed feelings/emotions to stop them during their journey.

You might be saying, “Wait a minute, Ron, I thought ‘disempowering beliefs’ were the cause of me not achieving my goals.” Yes, you’re right. However, in order for you to feel any emotion, you quickly evaluate what’s happening based on your perception(beliefs), then you feel an emotion and act/behave a certain way (or not).

Let me give you an example of what I mean, okay? Let’s say you are the one that has set the goal to earn six figures every year for the past twenty years and have not yet realized that goal. I’m curious. What if you only looked at your financial results for the past twenty years? Does it cause you to feel doubtful about hitting your target this year? What do you think your possibilities of making it happen will be if you don’t learn new skills, strategies, or techniques? How do you feel? More importantly, what do you think/believe in order to feel that way?

What did you learn?

In the days and weeks ahead, as you continue to pursue your goals, I highly recommend asking yourself a similar question because, if you do, you will discover the disempowering beliefs that have stopped you in the past. After you’ve discovered the disempowering beliefs, replace them with empowering beliefs, and walk yourself through the following process to radically change the way you feel in the moment:

As you read, take a deep breath and begin to remember a time when you felt absolutely certain that you were going to accomplish whatever you set out to do. What are you picturing in your in mind? What are you saying to yourself? How do you feel now? Hold on to that feeling! Maybe you can hold on to it with your right hand. Now, make a fist a say, “Yes!”

In your current emotional state, do you think you will accomplish your goals this year. Chances are, you do! The reason is that the way we feel determines our behavior and the results we produce. However, our feelings/emotions are driven by our beliefs. Therefore, you must watch out for beliefs that are like garbage and throw them out. Then, you must continually add empowering beliefs in their place. Are you with me?

Isn’t it time to show the world the best of you and of what you’re truly capable? I can’t hear you? Make a fist and loudly say, “Yes!”

With your success in mind,
Ron

P.S. Research shows that nearly 2% of the US population that set goals on New Years day will achieve them. (Source: Robbins Research International) Will you be in the 2%? If you want to ensure your spot in the 2%, click here to find out how we can work together.

Perceptual Persuasion

What is Perceptual Persuasion? Hold your horses! First, let me tell you a brief story.

One summer’s day, back when I was a tall and skinny teenager, sleeping late into the day after staying up all night, I was awakened by a noise outside my bedroom window. Initially, I lay there slightly startled but as the noise continued, it became apparent that someone was attempting to open my window. As you might imagine, my heart began pounding as I rose from my bed and headed toward the window.

Slowly, I peeked out the blinds to see what the burglar looked like, so that I could describe him to the police later. While peeking through a small space in the blinds, I definitely saw the burglar, and I was completely shocked! You see, the person attempting to break into my home was someone who I called “friend!”
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Measuring Your Influence

Back in August of this year, I asked my Twitter friends what topic they would like for me to discuss on my radio show “Immediate Influence.” My Twitter friend, Rafiq Phillips @rafiq in Cape Town, South Africa suggested that I discuss “How to measure influence.” I thought this was a great suggestion so I produced a show on that very topic. You can find it in the “Immediate Influence” show archives by clicking here.

Since you may not invest the time to listen to the show recording, I’ve written out some of what my guest, Wendy Y. Bailey @wendyybailey and I discussed during the show:
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In today’s society, we have the ability to quickly and easily communicate with people, in real time around the world. As a result, we can tap into the thinking of diverse perspectives on any topic. Sometimes the topic leads to casual conversation, constructive criticism, humorous retorts, or passionate debate. No matter what form the conversation takes, if you desire to impact the thoughts, emotions, and actions of other people, you will benefit from this post that explains a basic NLP principle.

Although the NLP principle you are about to learn is basic, understanding it will profoundly impact your ability to influence and persuade people. What is this basic concept? It is understanding someone’s map of the world. Simply put, a person’s map of the world makes up their reality. Why? Our maps of the world are formed during the experiences of life and we make decisions (literally formulate beliefs) about what those experiences meant. It is the meaning we attach to any experience which drives our behavior.
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Q: What is the most important step in your selling, influencing, or persuading process?

A: Great question! As a sales, influence, and persuasion trainer, I’ve often posed that question to varying groups of people. Typically, 7 out of 10 respond that “closing” is the most important step in the selling process. I respectfully submit to you that that belief is faulty. You see, my research shows that people buy, more so, because they like the seller, speaker, or candidate.

I’m curious. Have you liked a seller so much that you helped them close the deal? I have.

Now, I don’t want you to misunderstand me. Closing the deal is important! However, the relationship you establish with a client or customer is paramount. Think about it. The more deeply you bond with any client or customer, the more likely they will remain loyal and refer others to you. Make sense? In addition to that, you might receive some unexpected gifts.

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How to Immediately Influence Yourself

Sometimes we have an inaccurate perception of the happiness of successful people in business, politics, and entertainment. In reality, regardless of their socioeconomic success, a number of them are messed up on the inside. In fact, many times we have discovered they are depressed, abusive, suicidal, and addicted to drugs and/or alcohol.

Ironic? Yes! Think about it. In our society, people believe that happiness and success are derived from earning a significant income, acquiring material objects, traveling to exotic places, eating in the best restaurants, and staying in the finest hotels. Yet, I imagine that you can think of a few famous people experiencing all that, and more – but they are miserable.

Why?
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