Influencing Yourself - Ron Hudson

Perceptual Persuasion

What is Perceptual Persuasion? Hold your horses! First, let me tell you a brief story.

One summer’s day, back when I was a tall and skinny teenager, sleeping late into the day after staying up all night, I was awakened by a noise outside my bedroom window. Initially, I lay there slightly startled but as the noise continued, it became apparent that someone was attempting to open my window. As you might imagine, my heart began pounding as I rose from my bed and headed toward the window.

Slowly, I peeked out the blinds to see what the burglar looked like, so that I could describe him to the police later. While peeking through a small space in the blinds, I definitely saw the burglar, and I was completely shocked! You see, the person attempting to break into my home was someone who I called “friend!”
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Strategic Influence Objective Number One Explained

On Thursday, November 20th, I posted an article to this blog titled Three Strategic Influence Objectives. In this post, I will briefly explain what you should do to achieve the #1 Strategic Influence Objective which is…

Focus on being deepest in peoples’ hearts, instead of only being top of mind

The fact is, actually accomplishing this objective is more about who you are, than what you do. Quite frankly, I could stop right there and end this post. Couldn’t I?

I mean, you’ve come across people online and offline who have touched your heart, haven’t you? I certainly have. I’m curious. Have you noticed any commonalities? Here’s what my personal experience and research has uncovered:
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Measuring Your Influence

Back in August of this year, I asked my Twitter friends what topic they would like for me to discuss on my radio show “Immediate Influence.” My Twitter friend, Rafiq Phillips @rafiq in Cape Town, South Africa suggested that I discuss “How to measure influence.” I thought this was a great suggestion so I produced a show on that very topic. You can find it in the “Immediate Influence” show archives by clicking here.

Since you may not invest the time to listen to the show recording, I’ve written out some of what my guest, Wendy Y. Bailey @wendyybailey and I discussed during the show:
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Elegantly Influencing Others

On any given day, we have a myriad of opportunities to elegantly influence the people in our lives. Each and every opportunity holds itself out to us with a question. “What will you do with me this time?”
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How to Immediately Influence Yourself

Sometimes we have an inaccurate perception of the happiness of successful people in business, politics, and entertainment. In reality, regardless of their socioeconomic success, a number of them are messed up on the inside. In fact, many times we have discovered they are depressed, abusive, suicidal, and addicted to drugs and/or alcohol.

Ironic? Yes! Think about it. In our society, people believe that happiness and success are derived from earning a significant income, acquiring material objects, traveling to exotic places, eating in the best restaurants, and staying in the finest hotels. Yet, I imagine that you can think of a few famous people experiencing all that, and more – but they are miserable.

Why?
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How to Deeply Influence Others and Yourself

James Van Fleet once said, “Always think in terms of what the other person wants.”

During my nearly 10 years of marriage, I’ve discovered that one of the keys to a successful relationship is thinking in terms of what my wife wants. For instance, there are times when my wife wants to watch a romantic movie when I’d prefer to watch an action movie. You might be saying,”Great! Let her watch her romantic movie and you go watch an action movie on another television.” Good idea, my rational thinking friend. However, if I were to act on that type of thinking my wife wouldn’t get what she really wanted it from the experience. Connectedness. Guess what? I want to feel that too.

In fact, everything human beings do can be summed up this way: Human behavior is driven by our desire to change the way we feel or change the way we behave. Most people take actions to change the way they feel because it’s an easier path to take. Unfortunately, many people indulge in behaviors that are detrimental in the pursuit of changing feelings. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can take complete control of your feelings/emotions in an instant. Want an example?

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Ron Hudson