Happy New Year!

Here we are beginning a new year and a new decade. As a result, you – like so many other people – probably decided on resolutions to reach higher heights in some area of life that matters. For instance, you might have chosen to improve your health, increase your wealth, better your relationships, or sharpen your skills.  No matter what area you picked, I wonder if you are still going for it.  The reason I wonder is research shows that 95% of the population that resolved to effect positive change in their lives this year quit pursuing the change by January 15th.

Why People Quit

Why do people quit?  The simplistic explanation is pain.  As human beings we are hard-wired to do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure.  What’s fascinating is the pain is rarely based in reality.  How do I know?

Reason #1 Two decades ago I began learning how to create rapid change in others and myself by using Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Neuro Associative Conditioning (NAC).

Reason #2 I have been guilty of relinquishing the pursuit of certain goals in the past because of imagined pain.  For example, at the start of a new year I would tell myself, “I’m going to trim the fat, build muscle, boost my energy, and lose 10lbs.” In the first few weeks of the year, I would workout five days a week without fail.  Then five days gradually turned into three days.  Three into one.  And finally one day transitioned into zero.

When someone asked, “How’s your workout coming?” I would say, “I haven’t had time to workout lately.  I’m too busy working with clients and other projects.” Seconds later I would say to myself, “The truth is you stopped making time to workout!”

What happened?  What prevented me from continuing my enthusiastic quest for a greater level of health and fitness?  You know the answer to that question, right?  Pain.  How did pain stop me?  No, I didn’t injure myself.

In hindsight, based on advanced Neuro Linguistic Programming and Neuro Associative Conditioning training, I discovered that I was running a limiting behavioral pattern– a limiting pattern that is common amongst people who are gradually overtaken by inaction to achieve their goals. Before I reveal the specifics of the limiting pattern, you should know that all patterns include three components.  And, taking control of these three components will absolutely change your life forever!  These three components are what influence all human emotions that lead to behaviors that are beneficial or detrimental:

1) Mental Focus – what you notice, perceive, and believe about a person, event, or activity

2) Language - what you’re saying to yourself  and what you say aloud

3) Physiology - the condition of your body.  i.e., breathing, posture, facial expression, muscular tension or relaxation, etc.

Now that you’ve learned the primary drivers of limiting patterns, I’ll reveal the structure of it and how to eliminate it… now.  Ready?  Let’s do this!

Simply put, the limiting pattern consisted primarily of making the process of working out too big in my mind.  For instance, when I’d think about working out, I’d begin thinking about fighting traffic for 20 to 30 minutes to get home, finding a parking space in my Northern Virginia Townhome complex, getting out of the car, going into my home, taking off my tie, shirt, jacket, and pants.  Then locating my tennis shoes, socks, shorts, and t-shirt to workout- that had to be color coordinated!  After suiting up in my workout gear, figuring out where to put my keys, leaving my home to walk to the fitness room, stretching, finding an open machine, beginning my work out, while completely aware that I would still have to walk back home, take off my sweaty workout gear, take a shower, and find clothes to wear for the evening.

Now you understand what I mean by “making the process too big in my mind,” don’t you?  Think of it this way.  After considering all that needed to happen for me to workout, I felt like I was going to try to eat a whole elephant in one bite.  Impossible!

Another way I would language the experience is, I felt overwhelmed, and because I allowed myself to feel that way I became demotivated. Once I felt demotivated, I thought to myself, “I’m going to just relax tonight.” Have you ever run that pattern?  Is it time to stop now? 

Watch the following video to find out the impact of stopping a limiting pattern had on my friend and client, Alejandro Reyes’ life.

How to Eliminate Your Limiting Pattern

After almost two decades of utilizing the cutting-edge, behavioral sciences of Neuro Linguistic Programming and Neuro Associative Conditioning I’ve become aware of many ways to help anyone achieve exactly what they want in every area of their life. Big claim, right? Yes, it is! But, I suggest you suspend your skepticism until after you’ve seen your own results from what I’ve used to remain on track.

If you’re willing to do that for a brief period, I promise you’ll be happy you did. By the way, I’m stronger, healthier, and more fit at 45 than I was at 25 because of using a process similar to what you’re about to learn and use now. Ready to learn, then do? Let’s get started!

The Video Pattern

1) Imagine constructing a YouTube video of you about to do your limiting pattern.  (e.g., going into overwhelm, then procrastinating)
2) Begin to see an image of your ideal self (a “do-it-now” type of person), minimize the image so that it appears in the bottom right corner
of your YouTube video.
3) Now imagine using your cursor to click on the image of your ideal self, see your ideal self video getting bigger and brighter. Watch it
melt away and destroy the video of you running the limiting pattern, taking its place
4) Repeat the process rapidly over and over and over again until the image is a new video in your mind.
5) Do this process at least 20 times to condition yourself with the new pattern.  Yes, 20 times because…

“Successful people do what the failures won’t.” -Tony Robbins

That’s it!  I’m curious.  Can you put aside your skepticism about quickly changing your limiting pattern, so that you become a part of the 5% club?  Remember 95% of the people who started this year have now already quit?  Which group suits you?

Guarantee Your Success

If you’re committed to joining (or staying in) the 5% club, leave a comment below that A) includes one of your resolutions/goals for 2010.  B) Be specific.  C) Write why you’re absolutely committed to making it happen.  D) Include how you’ll measure your progress.  E) Decide on a completion date.  I know that’s asking a lot – but this is your chance to achieve what you want in 2010!  If you don’t leave your comment below with the requested information, do yourself a favor and at very minimum share it with someone you’d absolutely hate to disappoint.

Whether you want to transform your body into one suitable for magazine covers, double your income,  or reignite passion in your relationship, you must take consistent actions that you haven’t taken in past years.  However, eliminating the old patterns is imperative to your success, okay?  Use the Video Pattern to eradicate the old pattern and install the new pattern if you want to guarantee your success!  I look forward to reading your comments!

Wishing you incredible success,

Ron

P.S. After using “The Video Pattern,” people still want some one-on-one coaching, so I offer complimentary coaching/consulting sessions to determine what it will take to stop their pattern quickly. If you realize that you want one-on-one time with me, just click here to schedule a time for us to chat.